How To Spot A Player…from A Mile Away!

Dating online has its risks and rewards, and everyone who’s ever been that route knows that things don’t always pan out the way they’re supposed to. For those who don’t want to be caught unawares, there are several signs you can watch for to tell you when everything isn’t as it seems.

Players Say Too Many Good Things about You

A typical player will compliment you to the moon and back, while not meaning a word of it. Or if he does mean it, he’s expecting more than just a ‘thank you’ in return! If he says something corny like “you’re too sexy to be single,” that’s the worst because it demeans you as a person and means you’re only good for your looks.

Players are Narcissistic

The average player will spend the majority of conversation time talking about himself, his accomplishments, his ‘toys’ and his interests. The real success with meeting someone while dating online is when you find the guy who talks about you because he wants to learn more about you. That’s being considerate, yes, but it’s more about a genuine interest in you.

Players Talk AT you, not TO you

The everyday player isn’t really having a conversation with you: he’s just practicing his lines on you! You’ll know it by the way he delivers his sentences in a vague and general way, making you a little unsure of whether he’s really talking about you. These guys don’t listen, either, which you’ll see in the next point

Players have Bad Memories

The ultra-smooth dude you thought was a great catch is actually completely disinterested in you! Sorry to burst your bubble but did you just catch him asking you for the third time what school you went to? He won’t remember what you said five minutes ago, let alone what you talked about on a previous date.

Players get Uptight if you won’t spend the Night

Now, your average male human being definitely won’t let the chance of a stay-over get away, but that won’t be his primary focus. On the other hand, your player will be dead set on you spending the night. He’ll act like a kid who just lost his candy and fret and fume when you say you can’t.

Players HATE PDA – Public Displays of Affection

A player won’t be caught dead holding your hand in public, especially if he thinks someone he knows might spot him. He’s always on the prowl for “something better”, so naturally he won’t want an anchor weighing him down – aka you!