Top Relationship Experts’ Secrets for Singles on Valentine’s Day

If you are still single, you probably have the same recurring situation going on for a while.  Maybe, you are repeating old patterns like focusing on the lack of quality singles, attracting wrong people, your busyness gets on the way or you just aren’t ready to commit.  Whatever you focus on multiplies.  The good news is you can change your story by changing your “mindset” as early as NOW, February 14, 2022.   As an example, instead of saying “there are not enough quality singles”, why not proclaim, “It is raining singles out there.”  To complement this, learn to say “no” to those who don’t fit your criteria. Another idea you can consider is getting some help.  How about enrolling your friends and family to scout a potential mate for you?  If you want to go a step further, invest on your romantic life by working with relationship expert.    Be in the state of knowing that the “one” for you is also out there looking for you, too.   Whatever inspired action you do, you are definitely getting closer to finding each other.   Lorii Abela, Asian Matchmaker at Lorii Abela Matchmaking.

If you are single on Valentine’s Day, embrace it.  The best thing you can do is to be in acceptance of what is and to be present.   If you are living in the past (depression) or living in the future (anxiety), you won’t be able to enjoy the present moment.  Believe that your time will come and you will meet your “person.”  Instead of feeling lonely or down on yourself, feel empowered with the knowledge of your worth and value, and the right person at the right time will find you.  Go out and have fun with your friends and you never know who you might meet!  Jaime Bronstein, Relationship Therapist at Love Talk Live. 

My number 1 tip I would give to someone when it comes to how you can make your Valentine’s Day special is: QUALITY TIME.  This is a tip that is not only for couples, but for singles as well!  Quality time is very important because not only is it 1 of the 5 main love languages, it allows you to dedicate and give undivided attention to those who mean a lot to you.  For couples, giving undivided attention to your spouse and showering them with affection is VERY ATTRACTIVE and to the spouse, it shows that they mean a lot to you.  This in turn, will allow your spouse to deliver the same amount, or even more, undivided attention. For singles, it’s the same thing; putting yourself first, loving your whole self, spreading love to friends and family around you, there is no better person a single person should be giving love to this Valentine’s Day than THEMSELVES!  Anthony Canapi, Los Angeles Matchmaker at Anthony Canapi. 

One Russian writer wrote many years ago:  “It’s better to be alone, than with somebody for just for the sake of it.” And this is my advice for all people, who are single on this day.  It’s better to be difficult to resist all the pressure of this day, especially if you don’t get a card or present and you have nobody to send a card to….  But, please, don’t make any silly decisions like getting drunk and messaging all your old contacts in your smartphone.  Don’t try and reactivate old relationships that are finished just because there is a number 14 on the calendar.  Your Valentine is you!  Don’t forget it.  Spend this day with you and make something nice for yourself.  And you know what?  Next year it will be better.  Believe me.  Ksenia Droben, International Matchmaker at Droben Matchmaking.

As a matchmaker who specializes in introducing singles from different countries and cultures, I can confess that international couples usually have way more fun in their relationship. However, it is important:  1.  To choose international dating only for all the right reasons:  (a) you travel a lot, (b) you love learning foreign languages and exploring new cultures, (c) you want more romance in your relationship, or (d) you find accents hot.  2.  Start looking for love only for all the right reasons such as you feel ready to invest your time and effort in finding the right person and building a relationship. And, it is not because all of your siblings and friends are married or you feel this is something that should be done.  3.  Do not romanticize love and relationship. Building a healthy, meaningful relationship will require time and effort from both sides.  Having a boyfriend or a girlfriend won’t magically solve all your problems and insecurities.   4.  Do not try to find pure perfection in love – it exists only on Instagram.  Real life doesn’t have all the cute filters.  In real life, all people have their fears, insecurities, wish lists, strengths and weaknesses.  5.  Don’t forget that where you invest your love, you invest your life!  Svetlana Mukha, International Matchmaker at Diolli Matchmaking Agency.

As a single, my ultimate V-Day tip is to treat yourself like the royal you are.  Don’t be afraid to go all out and splurge on yourself this Valentine’s Day.  Buy that piece of jewelry, take yourself out to an expensive dinner for one, book that Caribbean trip you’ve always wanted to go on and be prepared to get your groove back.  Make yourself the focus of your life.  However, when you’re ready to find love, we’ll be waiting here to help you.  Daphne Poyser, LGTBQIA+ Matchmaker at Fern Connections.